The trick to avoid arguments is primarily useful for husbands and wives but there are many other situations where it can be very helpful.
When people live together there is bound to be a certain amount of friction that occurs. It is to be expected. Each person has their own good and bad habits. Let’s imagine a household where the husband has the habit of leaving his clothes lying around on the floor and the wife is upset with having to constantly pick them up.
One Sunday evening when the wife picks up a dirty sweat shirt to throw into the hamper she verbally attacks her husband. ” Were you raised in a barn leaving your clothes all over the floor? You turned out to be one big slob. ” At this point the husband having been attacked responds with his own attack criticizing her cooking and anything else he could think of.
What the wife should have said was, “When you leave you clothes on the floor and I have to pick them up it makes me feel like a maid instead of your wife.” She is still discussing the problem of clothes on the floor but there is no personal attack, so the husband does not attack her. This opens up the probability for a reasonable discussion about the clothes.
The idea in back of this trick is to express how the other persons bad conduct hurt your feelings instead of criticizing them for what they have done. This leads to discussion rather than confrontation.
Many parents complain that if they want their child to do something, they have to nag about it over and over again and it still doesn’t get done. Some of the reasons for this is that children are easily distracted, they would rather play and they have previously gotten out of doing the task by ignoring you.
Here is a different approach to the problem. First, explain why the task has to be done. Let’s say you want them to put their toys away. You might say,” Your toys have to be picked up and put away so you will be able to find them and play with them tomorrow. ” You might also use as an explanation, ” Your toys have to be picked up so nobody will trip over them and hurt themselves.” At this point you might ask the child, ” Will you put them away?” If the task is not done immediately stop back from time to time and simply say, “Toys.”
Another example might be getting the child to help clear the table after a meal. An explanation might be, ” Food spoils when left on the table and it can make people sick. So will you bring the dishes in the kitchen?’ If the chore is not done right away, go back from time to time and just say, ” Dishes.”
Always thank the youngster for doing the task. Let them know their work is appreciated.
Good credit can save you money because it gets you financing at a cheaper rate. It also gives you favorable treatment from banks and credit card companies. For the most part your credit score is based on how promptly you make your payments and not having to great of an outstanding balance owed.Your credit score will be hurt by payment delinquencies and the closing out existing credit cards that you have but do not use.
Be very hesitant about using credit repair companies that charge for their services. They cannot do anything for you the you can’t do for yourself under the Federal Credit Repair Act.
The trick that will help you improve your credit score is this. When you receive your monthly credit card statement it appears as though you have the option of paying either a minimum amount or the monthly balance. If you normally pay the minimum, pay an amount reasonably over the minimum (10 – 15%). This will accelerate lowering your existing balance and this makes credit card companies very happy. Try it for a few payments and see what the results are credit wise. Eventually the balance has to be paid off anyway.
It is not unusual to see and hear a young child have a crying melt down while the parents are standing there looking embarrassed. One reason for this crying is that little children often have no other way of expressing themselves.
Another and probably more significant reason is that being on a trip or vacation they find themselves in unfamiliar surroundings. Where you as an adult may look at your new environment with interest to the young child it might be frightening.
Imagine that you are at Disney World and had never before seen any of the Disney characters. Suddenly, a five foot mouse, with big ears, a squeaky voice, walking upright, approaches you and says, “Hello, my name is Mickey.” No one would blame you for being a little upset. Think how a little kid feels in unfamiliar surroundings. Young children need and thrive in stable environments. They are uncomfortable in airports, planes, trains and busses as well as restaurants, movie theaters, stores and dozens of other places.
The best thing you can do to avoid the crying is to tell the child where they will be going tomorrow. Tell them what they are going to see and what fun things they should look for. As you arrive at the places you told them about remind them of your discussion. Another words, based on your conversation as to what they will be seeing you are making them seem more familiar.
You can save up to 30% of what you’re currently paying for auto insurance by following certain rules. The average auto policy in the United States runs just over $800 per year, So considerable savings are possible and if your policy is more costly the discounts are proportionately higher.
The first rule is never renew your existing policy without checking the cost of other policies found in the market place . There are websites that will give you a quote or insurance brokers who will do likewise. Keep in mind that what you are looking for are brokers or websites that handle many different insurance companies. Each policy holder has their own unique driving situation and each insurance company has their own preferences. The idea is to put the two parties together with as inexpensive of a policy as possible.
The second rule concerns discounts. Many insurance companies will give the policy holder a discount for certain things that they have or have done. The insurance company must be told about these matters, but in most cases it is necessary to actually have to ask for the discount. Discounts range from 5% to 20% of the premium. Although the discounts are additive the companies usually put a cap on the total that can be used. You may find that some have already been figured in, but it is worth checking.
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